Thursday, May 11, 2006

New Thoughts

From my observation...and my imagination...it seems that dating relationships (in many cases, not all) that are carried out in an appropriate manner arise when a young man finds something desirable in a young woman. He observes her further to notice the presence or absence of future potential as a wife and a mom. This may not be a fully conscious process. He may not realize why he's attracted to certain things and not to others, but evidence has led me to believe this is the case. At some point, he makes the inner decision that he would like to have her as his. The pursuit begins. All he really has to do over the course of time is make her aware that he sees and values specific qualities about her. It ALMOST never fails. Women respond to being cherished. Here's the take-away points at which I wanted the reader to arrive:

GUYS: If you like the girl, just pursue! You'd be suprised how a heart can be turned when you come to retrieve it with confidence, gentleness, and perseverance. But, seriously, keep in mind, if she keeps rejecting, gather the scraps of self-esteem, and keep your eyes open for someone better suited for you.

GIRLS: Sweetie, you can crush all you want, but they ain't all coming after you. So have fun with your girls and your guy friends if you have them. Don't get overjoyed when someone wants to "set you up". It works for some; for others it's a nightmare. Keep your eyes open as well. It may actually take you somehow getting your foot in the door to snag a thought in his head. But someone will come. And keep in mind, your Savior has already come. It's a tragedy to all parties involved when the role of Christ and the man in your life become construed. No good.

A wise man once told me: Girls initiate, guys pursue, girls respond. I'm not sure that any of the previous advice applies across the board, but it's just what I've got for now.

I'd LOVE some feedback...

4 comments:

Vilas said...

love the post lw

Anonymous said...

i'd like to say that i agree with you. but it's just not that easy! i've asked many a girl out that i thought would be great, but they dont' respond.*note*"i don't ask every girl out, in fact there are few who can fit through my rigorous screening process!" they act interested and then they play ya! or. they just think you want to be super close as a friend, i have no desire for that. i have plenty of friends. it's obvious i like you, but she's just dumb. no offense. it's just not that clean cut. i wish it were.

Anonymous said...

so lauren i totally agree it is the guy who should be pursuing. the most important thing about relationships is making sure you know who you are before you jump into a relationship otherwise it will never work out.

Barb said...

ace- i loved your blog. i've been thinking about dating alot lately. i am thoroughly interested in this particular guy- and we had the DTR or some version of that. now i think he is running away. not sure why, but it's stressful. i wish i could scoop up some of my confidence and hand it to him. he just doesn't seem to know how to follow through. or take a chance. i swear God made me the wrong sex..hehe jk. i love being a woman! and i love your thoughts!